If it looks too good to be true…

I’ve seen a few posts recently about online dresses from lots of different sites.
They seem so appealing due to their price!!
Why are they so affordable and bridal boutiques or legitimate sites more expensive?
There is a reason why they are cheaper, I’ll list a few:
  • They steal images, so they have no commercial photography costs , no brand building advertising costs.
  • They use low grade fabrics, low grade trims, low grade crystals ( plastic instead of glass etc)
  • They use low grade boning.
  • They use unethical methods of supporting and paying employees
  • They do not provide a bricks and mortar retail environment where you can go and try, and establish what shape suits you, get advice on fit, feel the fabrics. ( some do offer a chargable service to send out to try, which is good, but most don’t

This is just a few examples above.

So how do brides find out what will suit them if the online company does not send out, what to do?
These companies ( can you believe!) Encourage you to go visit the very independent stores whose designers they have ripped off , they encourage you to utilise their staff, access the use of those businesses running costs ( rent, staff, sample dresses, electricity, insurance, advertising etc) take up their time and expertise. These are expensive costs which is why dresses in real boutiques, selling genuine designers, where you can touch, feel, asses the quality, TRY ON and be advised and use an hour or three of their time to get the perfect dress, why they are more costly.
Then they Encourage you to walk away after effectively using that expertise for free ( you see now why many have starred to charge) walk away and order a knock off replica online once you have accessed expertise to see what suits you.😮
I am an independent boutique owner, selling designers dresses, plus my own bespoke designs.
If I did not have to staff my boutique, insure it, rent it, heat it, spend usually around 4 to 5 hours with each client communicating and helping them choose ( not including fitting and sewing time) then I too could slash prices, If I did not go to the expense of hiring models and doing photo shoots of my dresses, if I just stole other people’s photos I could charge less. But its ethically and morally wrong
I am not anti online shopping, in fact I have a lot of clients who purchase remotely, ( etsy, shopify,Instagram) mostly the ones in USA , Australia and New Zealand , but I would NEVER ask them to go waste another independent businesses time. Instead I take the time ( from my business costs) to communicate with them, take extensive measurements, do video calls. Also I protect them and adhere to distance selling rules.
Our beautiful, talented, passionate indie boutiques and designers in the UK are struggling, the world is being consumed by alibaba, aliexpress, temu, amazon, shein ( do love shein mind!!🤣, as it is hard to find daywear when you, like me are a size 22, but they mostly ( not alwats) do their own photos)
For those on a lower budget there are lots of options, all boutiques always have samples at up to 75% off, you can buy pre loved, vintage, retro etc.
Please help be part of the solution, not the problem.
BEX proud to be an indie bridal retailer and designer.
Thanks for listening xxxx
Below is a photo of a vintage/ retro dress that I hand coloured, so its totally original, as it was a 40 year old dress that I customised, I had it on etsy, but the client came to my studio and had it fitted, it was about £400 plus alts, so very affordable, an original one off. But look at all those copt sites. What on earth would you receive, they dont have a photo of the front for starters so did they just take a wild guess!
I’m bloody certain it would not be a vintage/retro dress that had been hand coloured!!

“As soon as you mention weddings the price goes up” – true or false?

This is a copy of a post I made on Facebook. See below for the full text.
Here are some of the responses:
(Thanks to Offbeat WedLinkin)
Its not often than things make me so incandescently mad that i have to put them straight immediately!
But this is one of those times.
Anything you book for your wedding will have a different price than the same or similar service if its not for a wedding.
If you have a dress made for a party will you spend up to 3 years talking to me, exchange often 50 to 150 messages, spend hours choosing fabrics and designs. Have 4 to 6 fittings??
Probably not? Thats why a bespoke wedding dress costs what it does, not because it has wedding in the title!
If you are having your hair done for a party or a night out, will you want to have one or more trials, will you want to exchange dozens of messages about your hair and wedding vibe, have a trial possibly with your hair accessory in? Will it need to stay looking fabulous for up to 16 hours?
Probably not, thats why wedding hair costs more, because its more difficult, takes more consideration and communication not because it has the word wedding in it!
If you are having make up for a party or event, will you want the same amount of skill, communication and attention to detail as mentioned above for hair? Probably not! Will it need to cope with different lightning, day and night, flash and no flash, will it Need to last 16 hours??
Thats why it costs more, not because it begins with Bridal!
The same goes for your food, your photographer, your styling. All have to be meticulously planned, it’s probably the most photographed , most important event you will ever plan and be part of.
Shame on you bride book!!😡
Who , do not forget provide a service to couples which is entirely funded by those suppliers they are asking their readers to lie to.🤯
Thanks to Plaits And Pin Curls – Award Winning Bridal Hair Plaits And Pin Curls – Award Winning Bridal Hairfor raising this, as i don’t use Bridebook so didn’t see it.
Absolutely disgusting behaviour.
Thankfully all my clients recognise the value and expertise a skilled wedding professional brings.🥰
Bridebook – The No.1 Wedding Planning App
I strongly suggest you have a word with yourselves!!

Bexbrides and Covid 19


To my wonderful brides to be: in order that we protect you, and make a stand against this virus, we made the hard decision that it was best that we suspended face to face consultations… temporarily! So it was, with a heavy heart and feeling of utter strangeness, that we locked up today. 😷

However rest assured we are well and truly still here for you. We are available by phone, text and messenger. 😘

We can do Skype or Messenger video calls. Pour yourself a glass and spam me with your Pinterest and wedding ideas 🍸🍷

Our Etsy shop is still open and we will be adding more items every week. I’ll finally have time to upcycle all those vintage dresses, ombre a ton of veils and make accessories!

My studio is actually more isolated than my house! Or I will be sewing from home and ombre in my garden! 🦚

Watch this space for Etsy listings. 😍

We have been in touch with all our brides who have had to postpone so far. As for those of you who haven’t yet, do not hesitate to get in touch. Bexbrides Ltd has drawn up a Covid 19 plan to protect everyone who is affected.

We feel your sorrow. I have cried so much this week. Those of you with destination weddings could have floated there on my ocean of tears.

But rest assured, we are not going anywhere (can’t as I have to stay home… but seriously, Bexbrides will be ready and waiting for you when you are able to have your weddings.)

Take care, stay safe.


Bex’s Blogging Dilemma

Reposted from Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/rebeccalombardearl)


Hi my wonderful followers, friends, family and clients.
Last April I launched my new website, and wrote a blog, I vowed to blog each month.
GUESS WHAT! yep I haven’t ðŸ¤¦â€â™€ï¸.
Honestly I meant to!! But I’ve been so busy ( which is awesome btw!!)
I has a business plan to move my little business more in the direction of me, rather than just being tumbled along by the tidal forces of bridal commerce and a busy life, and it’s been great, I’ve been me!! But my blogging promise got neglected.
I want to blog more, cos you know engagement, analytics, seo and all that nonsense….urgggg.
BUT where to start , what to write about.
I spend at least 30 mins every day answering brides questions in a multitude of bridal groups. So I really want to focus my expertise and knowledge and general waffling towards my followers.
HIT ME with stuff you want to read about.
Ombre ( dip dye effect)
Dressmaking process
Ethical recycling
Foundation garments
How I design
What inspires me
What I do in my spare time
How to avoid dress disasters
How to find your perfect dress shape
How to accessorise your dress
To veil or not to veil

You see my dilemma , and all the while I’m trying to decide what you might like to read about my head is popping out designs and thinking of ways to redesign 50 year old dresses ( of the 200 I have!!! In my vintage room)
Meeting clients ,planning photo shoots , designing clients dresses, talking to clients ( conversations can run to hundreds of replies back and forth)
Managing 3 Facebook pages, Instagram and whats app. Email and my website. Plus of course actual SEWING! steaming, beading.
And bloody admin ( yak!!)

SO COME AT ME!! what do you want to see more of, hear about, read about??
I feel so bad that I failed to keep my blogging promise, in my defence my work has been blogged dozens of times in the last year which gave me a little get out of jail free card. But I feel I owe you all something of me.

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